Tongues – What are They?


I prayed that prayer to be filled with the Holy Spirit but I’m not speaking in tongues. Is there something wrong with me  because I don’t speak in tongues?  I want to be able to worship like others in my church. Everyone seems so Spirit filled and I feel left out.


I am happy to note that you have prayed the prayer to invite the Holy Spirit to fill and empower you.  We all need that power to be able to live the supernatural Christian life.  And, by the way, that’s the main reason we need the Holy Spirit.  The best evidence of the Holy Spirit at work in your life, are the character qualities that only He can produce in us – see Galatians 5:22.  This is what people around you need to see in you.  Whether you speak in tongues or not is relatively unimportant.  It’s how you live that’s more important.

Speaking in tongues is one of the special gifts that God gives as He chooses, but He doesn’t give them to everyone, even those who may desire it.  He didn’t to me either.  And If God has not given you that gift; it is not an indication whether or not you are filled with the Spirit.

You are filled with the Spirit by faith.  So if you asked in faith to be filled, as you did, then, based on God’s command (Ephesians 5:18), and His promise (1 John 5:14-15 and Luke 11:13) you can know that you are now filled, even though you have had no dramatic emotional experience.  Confirm this in your mind by thanking Him that He has filled you.  Allow Him to develop, by His Spirit, the qualities that He wants to see in you.

If in time God should see fit to give you one of the special gifts, then so be it, but for now He has decided you don’t need it.

No, there is nothing wrong with you just because you don’t speak in tongues.  Your worship can be just as sincere without it.  I don’t want to sound critical, but when you say your church ‘seems so Spirit filled’ it is fair to ask yourself whether it is truly a demonstration of being Spirit filled or is it just a high level of emotionalism.  Ask yourself, “Is this seeming spiritual enthusiasm evidenced in the day-to-day living which attracts people to Christ, or is it just evident during the weekly worship time?”  That gives you something to think about.

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