Suicide

Request:
I can’t go on anymore…

Response:

There can be many reasons for feeling that we can’t go on anymore, and for most people there is more than one reason. Some reasons are internal and some are external.  Some reasons are related to our own choices, some are related to the choices of other people and some just happen and we cannot understand why. Some of the reasons include:

  • We have intense pain (whether physical or emotional)
  • Body, mind, or soul  is not functioning as it should, perhaps because it is lacking something we need
  • Unwise choices of ourselves or others have left us with consequences to deal with
  • We just don’t know how to deal with what our lives have become

Whatever the reason, the important thing is that we are at the place of not feeling that we can go on and it is vital to do something about that now!! because we are in great danger if we don’t. As a person who has experienced such desperation, I know how easy it is to slip over the edge and just give up and end it all. But I also know that that does NOT have to happen. There is hope and I want to share that with you.

The first thing we need to realize is that we cannot crawl out of this emotional hole by ourselves. If we could, we would have done it already. People seem to be made with protective circuits like a fuse box—when the challenges get to be too much we tend to shut down some things in order to stay alive. This happens with both bodies and minds. This is what is happening when disasters occur and people become somewhat numb or emotionally in shock and unable to think as usual for a time. Just as the body that is going into shock needs help to stay alive, so does the mind that is overwhelmed.

The second thing we need to realize is that feelings cannot always be trusted. A person who is going into shock from loss of blood generally feels like the world has gotten cold, but the temperature around them has not changed, only their perception of the temperature has changed. In the same way, a person who is being overwhelmed mentally may feel things that are not true. It is a fact that God loves you and that doesn’t change because your feelings change. You do matter enough that Jesus came to earth to be a man, and live and die for you, and that is a fact whether you feel significant or not. God doesn’t give you thoughts of suicide. He wants you to live. Jesus said, “The thief’s (Satan’s) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness” (John 10:10, TLB). Committing your life to God is essential. He can give you a life that is full.

The third thing you need to know is that anyone can get overwhelmed and need help. Needing help with dealing with this is not evidence of poor character or sin or lack of motivation. Just as anyone can get sick with cancer, anyone can be overwhelmed given enough challenges.  Those who judge people who need help to deal with mental struggles are just ignorant because it has not happened to them (yet).

The final thing you need to know is that getting help will require some action on your part. There is no magic cure of prayer or advice that we can dispense. Just as mental struggles can arise from many causes, there may be a variety of problems that need to be addressed in order to become well again and these can require treatment that is available whenever you need it and perhaps for a long period of time, but it is worth it to live mentally healthy. Finding a doctor can be very important because sometimes physical illness such as thyroid disease or diabetes can affect how we think and deal with challenges.  Our brains respond to our bodies and the reverse is also true. Brain chemicals can affect the way we feel and deal with life challenges and these may need adjustment especially if they have gotten out of normal levels. Having to take medication for the brain is not a sin any more than having to take medication for physical illness.

Finding another person to talk to that will understand can be very important also. A professional Christian counselor may be able to offer you much help and can give you information also about dealing with problems such as debt or family problems if these are a part of the situation for you.  To obtain a referral to Christian counselors in your area in the USA or Canada the following addresses may help: Focus on the Family, http://www.family.org/ telephone: (719) 531-3400, or the Narramore Christian Foundation, http://www.ncfliving.org/ telephone: (818) 288-7000, or RAPHA, telephone: 1-800-383-HOPE.

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In conclusion, this prayer is offered up for you, whoever you are if you are seeking help because you feel you can’t go on:

Dear God, we know that your love is a fact and that love extends to all the people you have created. We know that each of us matters to you and to the world you have created (no matter how we are feeling about ourselves at the moment). Please accept whatever commitment of self and effort that is offered to you by this reader and honor their request for help. Guide them to find the kind of help they need and bring about your healing so that they can be healthy and live that full life you offer. Amen.

Above all, keep your hope fixed on God who says, “I will never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5b).

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